Tips for BJJ Parents

Lately I've been showing up early to class and have been able to observe part of the kids’ class. With sometimes over 30 kids on the mat at any given time between the ages of 3 - 8 and 9 - 13, it constantly amazes me to see the skill level, commitment, and discipline displayed by them - largely due to their coaches and supportive parents.

Like any team sport, Jiu-Jitsu is no different for kids. However, being that BJJ is fairly new to the mainstream unlike soccer, basketball, baseball, or football, not all parents are familiar with or have ever tried BJJ.

After talking to a few coaches from different academies, they suggested some helpful tips for parents of children who train. Whether you are a parent who trains or a parent who doesn't, the following is a great guide to support your child’s BJJ journey:

  1. Always support your child, but never force them to go to class. This “motivation” can transform into an aversion to BJJ. On that same note, never force your child to compete either.
  2. Have realistic expectations. Don't expect your child to be a “professional” at a very young age. Also, don't expect your child to “get it” quickly. Although children can absorb techniques like sponges, there is always a learning curve, especially in BJJ.
  3. Don't coach from the sidelines in training. That's what you pay their coaches for. If not, throw on a gi and experience what your child is going through.
  4. When your child is competing, be supportive. The coaching should stop once the match is over. A hug or a high five after a fight is much more appreciated than talking about what they could have or should have done.
  5. Don't try to “live vicariously” through your child. Refer to #1.

Last but not least, make sure that the academy your child is training at teaches the whole aspect of BJJ, especially self-defense, as that is something they can take away for life.

Jiu-Jitsu provides long lasting benefits for kids. If you keep in mind the tips above, your child will prosper on their BJJ journey and you may end up being a proud parent of a black belt one day!